How to Unmess Your Life: Conversation with Libby Robertson

Keri Norley  

On this episode of the podcast. I'm so excited to have Libby Robertson on the show with me and we are talking about her book called How to mess your life. She talks about her rock bottom moment and her climb back out to creating a multi six figure and growing business. We discuss what to do if you are a perfectionist and feel stuck in your success and unable to move forward because of the mess in your life. And there are some really great tips and actions you can take today to unravel the mess in your life if you should have some. And by the way, it's totally okay to be messy and we talk about that too. This is a really beautiful episode and I hope you enjoy the show. I am Keri Norley and I am the wealth Alchemist and author of the international best selling book the new wealth, magnetise abundance, hold your wealth and leave a legacy. I mentor clear and activate people into a new level of wealth. I also educate you about safe, stable and constantly flowing ways to get into the cryptocurrency space through decentralised finance. I believe we can live a life of infinite joy, love, abundance, bliss and peace. It is my passion to help you break through your blocks around growing your wealth and creating your dreams. This podcast is dedicated to sharing insights and tools that will make an actual difference in your life and help you increase your wealth in this new paradigm that we are living to. Welcome to the wealth Alchemist podcast. Hello and welcome to this episode of the wealth Alchemist podcast. My name is Keri Norley, your host and there's some sirens already going. And today I have Libby Robertson on the call with me and so I'm so so excited to speak with you today. Libby is an international teacher, author, speaker coach healer and founder of several social initiatives including the self wealth project I want to hear about that hope to fam and school of spiritual healing arts sounds beautiful. When her life is a party girl came to a screeching halt and she found herself laying in a hospital that hospital bed after another night out drinking. Having lost everything and moving in with her parents. Libby decided to rebuild her life one day at a time. Libby now runs a successful global coaching company and is the founder and CEO of school of spiritual healing arts with her husband Dane is on a mission to empower millions of people around the planet to make positive sustainable changes in their lives, families, businesses and communities. So we can each live a happiest healthiest, wealthiest lives and do future generations proud. Ah, so beautiful. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for being on the show with us today Libby. I have been following Libby Well, I guess engaged with Libby for know that maybe last year and a half two years or something and every time I see your face come in every time I feel you and your energy and your group I just feel such a beautiful beautiful energy vibe love that comes from you and I'm so grateful to be here on this call with you to finally Connect because we've been chatting online for quite some time now. So welcome welcome welcome.

Libby Robertson  

Thank you so much for having me Carrie and thank you so much but yet this conversation in this space and and to everyone listening is that and it's always funny I just realised Oh, we've not actually connected real time like this before. So it's I love I love the online lab and the way that we get to connect and have these beautiful conversations and, you know, bring together and co create magic. So thank you for having me. My pleasure.

Keri Norley  

So today we want to what I really want to drop into and talk with you about and bring to the world. Libby has a book coming out, which is super exciting. I know the excitement. She's I think you're about like two weeks out now, right?

Libby Robertson  

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I remember, it's like 15 sleeps right now.

Keri Norley  

By the time the podcast is out, this book will already be in ready for you to be able to be bought to be buying. And so I know that like these last few weeks before a book comes out, it's such an exciting time. And I really wanted to think it's the topic of the book, the book is called How to unmask your life. And I know I have anyone who's been listening knows the last 18 months for me has been quite a hell of a journey of unmasking my life. And it's not the easiest path to take. But I think at some point, if you want to create the success that you deeply desire, creating the the path forward is on messing life. And so I'm really actually very excited to read the book, but I'm also excited to bring this conversation and so if you want to start leave you with, like, Where was your like, obviously, drinking, partying? Like, a bit like about what was happening? And like, what, what created this all of a sudden shift, because it's a huge shift. And I know Libby now, like your business is, you know, working its way to a seven figure ye Close, close to this place. This year, it'll be next year, right? But like, huge, huge, huge shifts in life to be able to do that. So go ahead and share a little bit. Yeah.

Libby Robertson  

Yeah, thank you so much for that. And it's really fascinating, because people see the external results now. And I always tell like, you know, it's for my clients, I always tell people like, Hey, this is the byproduct of the inner work. And you asked about the self wealth project, right? This was something that so let me let me take you on a little bit of a journey. So I had my first drink of beer, right? My very first drink of vmfs of alcohol when I was about probably four years old, three or four years old. And, you know, that that was, that was fine. It was fine. It was what it was, I wanted to you know, be like my granddad, who was just, you know, you don't know me as the oldest grand grand daughter and, and, you know, and then I really, like, started, I guess I started drinking properly at about 13 I remember having some drinks on the beach with my friends. And, you know, I was 1314. And, you know, throughout all my teenage years, I was just I partied so much like, you know, as a, I wasn't even legal, I had a fake ID and, you know, it was just, anyway, that that was, that was fine. When I left school, and I would, you know, sort of stepped into adulthood. And I went through university and I studied psychology. I remember being in a lecture in I think it was first or second year uni and I mean, first year uni. And we were learning about addiction. And the lecturer in a psychology class talking about addiction, he's going, you know, this is the sign that you're an alcoholic, and he was listing off if you do this, if you did this, if you if you drink, you can't stop, if you drink more than four drinks, and blah, blah, blah. And if you had it was like a rating system. So he he said, like, you know, I think it was like out of 10 or something, and he got everyone to raise their hands as to how many they scored. So most of the class there was like 100, and something people in the class and you know, raised their hand saying that they were technically identifying as alcoholic. So here I am, like, 1819 years old, going, hang on, we just like to party like we just like to party. We're not alcoholic, we're not. We don't have a problem. We just like to party. So that was kind of my first introduction into her that there's something not right here, right. There's something that I'm doing that I think is normal, because this is the all I've ever known yet it I'm being told right now that I have an addiction and that I'm alcoholic, like I'm going to sweep them under the rug. I'm going to ignore that and I'm going to go back to partying. So for the next several years, I went travelling and I was I began working as a travel agent and you know, I was travelling the world I had an on the outside. My life looked amazing, right? I was I was living the dream. I was receiving promotions. I was doing really well in my career. And in travelling the globe and partying partying, partying, partying, partying, partying, partying, everywhere I went. When I was 23, I had this crazy experience, where pretty much it was spirit coming in sharing a message with me through a wire just a wild situation that involved my ex partner. And it was just it was the most insane and sane conversation with spirit that I'd ever had. It was like you and I speaking they have a conversation now but it was with these three light beings. And I'd already been through my first virtual awakening at this stage. So this was like not necessarily new to me. But they said to me At this time, what did I say? Like you cannot drink like you like I was a nightmare. When I was drunk, I was obnoxious, I was rude. I was just like destroying every relationship like, everything in my life, like it was just like a, you know, I was not good. For most people, it's also destructive. And so in for me as well, I always describe it like, especially for those of us who are really intuitive, you know, our soul can often go into our body goes into a trauma response from having that much poison. And so like, when I look at the shamanic way, our soul actually leaves off, so parts leave. So what does that do that creates space in our body for other energies to come in, and I used to describe it, like, I wouldn't be there. And it would be like these low vibrational spirits, taking my body for joy, right? Like, that's what it felt like. So anyway, so these beings came down, I said, you cannot drink. This is not part of your path. If you continue, we're not going to save you anyway. Like the very fact that I wasn't even alive because of the situations I found myself in. You know, it was, it was a miracle that I was even alive. And when they said that, I was like, Ah, that's why they they've been protecting me this whole time. So three years we passed and I, I tried to stop. I was like, Yeah, okay, they've told me that I should stop. Okay. I'll try and stop. I think I lasted 10 days. And then I was like, man, I really would love a glass of wine right now. So go have a glass of wine, and start all over again. From it from that situation. Three years later. This is when it's like, this is the moment like this is the moment or rock bottom moment. No, you know what is hilarious about my rock bottom, and I laugh at that, because I've done so much healing to get to where I am. I literally landed on rock bottom. Like I think it said in my bio that I literally, I say this, it's it's pretty intense. So brace yourself has trigger warnings. You know, trigger warnings is about to go into this conversation. And so I tried when I was drunk, tried to in my life by jumping out of a building out of a window and landed, like, on my back on concrete, like, rock. Well, I survived. The doctors don't know how I survived the nurses. But the ambulance came. They don't know how I survived

Keri Norley  

as you're watching and telling the story to

Libby Robertson  

doing amazing. So I hear I was literally on rock what literally, rock bottom. So I woke up sobered up, I wasn't allowed to go to sleep. Because I think they had thought there might have had the bleeding to the brain and stuff. And yeah, and so as I was sobering up, I was looking around me with what the go. Why, why am I a hospital? Where am I? no recollection of what I'd like no recollection, just kind of like, Where am I? What's going on? Why have I got this neck brace on where like, Where are my pants? I don't even have pants on. Just the hospital gown, through my pants. What is going on? So it starts to be told to me what had happened. And I was like, Where's my partner? And they're like, he's not coming like, oh my what? I'm here by myself, like your parents on the way my parents on the way my parents, my parents coming? Like, I don't want my parents What are they doing? So long story like, long story short, this, you know, this was an entire day of these things unfolding. My parents are coming to the hospital and and you know, I said Where's? Where's Dana? Who's my now husband's? We'll get to it. We'll get to this. Well, my mom, she's like, he's not coming. He's done. He told you that he's done with your drinking. And you've pushed it too far. And he said that he's sorry, but he just can't deal with you anymore. And that's a me. Yeah. So this was my fourth relationship to break up because of my drinking. Here I was now having lost the love of my life. I was broke. Right? I spent I was at that time spending all my money, everything that I had on drinking, shopping. Yeah, drugs, alcohol. Tribal, sometimes I go on holidays as well. And moving back home with my parents. And I'm like, what, what the fuck am I doing with my life. This is not what I signed up for. This is not what I signed up for. This is not what I'm here to do. And I remember that conversation with spirit that I'd had three years prior. And I remember nurse saying to me, like they were doing all these assessments. And they were like saying, This is not normal behaviour. You're drinking so much. You're drinking all the time and drinking to blackout. Like you're drinking. You can't even remember what you do when you're drinking. And now you're trying to like act upon the I didn't. I didn't want to die like I when I was alive when I was so But I didn't want to die. But when I was drinking I did it was like I was in so much pain that it just would always come out in. And so I and I acted upon that. And the nurse was like, like in the hospital. This is not normal behaviour, like this is not normal. And here I was, you know, reflecting on my life looking around me and I could see very well that holy shit. I am the one that has done this. I have done this. No, no one is to blame here not about my partner leaving not about the relationships before leaving not about the stuff that happened with my parent, not not about any of that I am the common denominator and all of this. It's one

Keri Norley  

of the hardest and biggest, like, in anything, you know, and it's interesting whether it's addiction abuse, right? I mean, that's a big one, right? And abusive relationships being on either side of it like to fully Arn that I am the common denominator. It's like the first point of like, you can actually start to be able to change it. Because if you actually go, Oh, wait, I am the person who did this. That means I can undo this.

Libby Robertson  

That's really empowering. It's humbling. And it's pain. It's a painful truth to admit.

Keri Norley  

Very. Yeah.

Libby Robertson  

So this is where it gets really, this is where it gets really fun. So the nurse, we're having this conversation and she goes to me, like, what are you gonna do? Like, what are you gonna do? I talked about this in the book, what are you gonna do? And I'm like, I don't know, like, what am I? What am I gonna do? Like on the whole life? What am I gonna do? You ask him a question. This is what I'm thinking. And then it comes out of it, it's just blurted out, blurted out as my soul. My soul was like, what do you do know, like, of course, you know, like, Blitz out of my mouth, like, I can never drink again. And as soon as I said, I was like, I have just made a massive contract, a commitment between me and the universe. Yeah, because this note was no longer about, you know, in the past, it was like, Yeah, yeah, like, I don't want to upset you. And I know that me being drunk upsets you to other people, to my family, to my friends to help, you know, my boyfriend's to work, you know, like, you know, if I was partying with work colleagues, this was no longer about anyone else, but me and source. So when I said that, and I was witnessed by my mum, and by the nurse, but most importantly, by source and I knew that I have no idea how I'm going to do this. But I'm making a commitment. And I'm going to find a way I there, I've done things in my life that I didn't know how I was going to do them before, I will find a way to do this. I don't know how, but this is the commitment that I'm making. So that was really where it will begin. Like, one day at a time, one day at a time figuring out who was I without this identity that I'd created as a party go Who was I with that? You know, this like, you know, who was I who was Libby and and I remember just waking up in that first week I had concussions. So I spent the first week it was like, but but the way that this all happened was just so beautiful. I could not have wished for a better way for this to happen. Because here I was, I had to spend a week in bed with nothing like no TV, no, like, no lights or anything. I had to spend a week alone with myself. And this is the biggest gift that I think that I ever received, you know at that, at that time in my life. Because I was like, right? Please get to work. Let me own up to all the shit that I've done. Let me own up to all my mistakes. Let me really take responsibility. Let me write a commitment letter to myself that in case I get tempted to go back in case I forget. And I'm tempted to go back to who I was, let me write a letter and as much pain as I'm in right now that any future version of me that has forgotten what it feels like right now in this moment of my deepest, darkest moments, that I will remember the reason why I've made this commitment to this to this new path. So yeah, that's kind of kind of the overview. So yeah, so But yeah, thanks for listening.

Keri Norley  

You're welcome. Thank you for sharing. It's such a, you know, I think it's one of those things where everybody gets a place in their life. where it's like, What's wrong, like, what am I doing? Why am I creating this? And and it's interesting, because I've wondered, is it like, what's the What does you know, like, what's rock bottom mean? And what where do people really have to go for rock bottom? And does it have to be jumping out of a window? And you know, like, and no, I don't think it does. I don't think everybody has to get to the depths of that. And so it's like what's, you know, and I think actually even asking people here listening like maybe you've already hit your rock bottom. Right? And I think that's something like we can really look at like, it doesn't matter. You don't have to have like the extremity I know for me like and I won't even call it a rock bottom I'm like I don't know like cuz I'm sitting here thinking like this right now like I don't know that I have like a that's not true like years and years ago I've definitely been in those suicidal moments but like in the path since of like the growth and everything where I've really consciously been been creating a new life for myself I remember last year it was like 18 months ago when I was working with Kate O'Brien you might know her kid O'Brian she's a cutie as well. And we were doing leadership work and I was like, I know this stuff Kay, Why can I not do it? Like why am I still hitting my head like on a mental level I fully know what you're asking me to do. Are you fully understand? I know that I can. I am capable of this but yet I'm still in my bed. I don't want to get out of it. Yeah, I want to not do that thing you're asking me to do? And yeah, right. And it was like Okay, so what is the thing that standing in my way? Right? And so like I'm saying it doesn't have to be like this like huge ordeal but it was a pivotal point in my life where I was like Harry, you either need to change what's going on in your life or you will be in this endless cycle forever. And and it was like for me it was a mental health thing and like I started to look at things and I was like, Oh wait, there's mental health stuff here that I've never really looked at. And anyone who's listened to the podcast knows like I've shared very openly in this journey of overcoming I never got diagnosed with bipolar. But like when I went into like have therapy around it and have like I've done neurofeedback so like completely rewiring my brain and it's been 18 months where I've gone very very regularly to have a complete shift of brain things because a lot of mental health issues are literally like you're just not crossing your paths right? Right. And so when I went in it was like every single thing like I could take off every box for all of the tendencies so whether we've had that diagnosis or not it's like it was it was like all the tendencies were there and so it's been a really long journey to like unravel but at some level I had to just like what you're saying like it was just been one day at a time one day at a time and like I can be pulled backwards into like all day and like then the therapist like it's okay Carrie, you're doing better just think about where you were a few months ago right?

Libby Robertson  

Yeah, yep, exactly. And so even like even even if you feel like you feel like you're going backwards, but then you know, you look sometimes we have to go even deeper in order to have that springboard to go even further forward. So it's like you're not you're not actually going backwards you're just going deeper

Keri Norley  

and it looks like it's interesting because what I'm finding about it is it's like there's more the more awareness you have that when you make that mistake that you would have made months ago you make the mistake and miss a quote unquote I'm fingering here mistake because it's not like it's the universe I'm looking at it going the universe is showing you that you've either gotten new strengths that you still have something to work on that like ooh that thing that I worked on I thought I had cleared out of the pattern in my life I haven't but yet I can show up for it differently this time just because that thing happened I can choose here to make a different choice of how I'm going to show up for that as a reaction versus I'm now going to choose that I'm gonna have to go and have a bender for the next five days. Yeah, right yeah, whatever the thing was that it was for you. Um, and so like even for me I'm finding like a lot of my stuff has been I know this is like has been has been looping so a big thing with bipolar stuff is like looping looping, looping, and it's not a pretty looping in your mind. It's a non it's a very unhelpful, very, very detrimental II mean looping in my mind that had gone I didn't even realise like for how many years it's like drinking I didn't realise it was wrong, right? I didn't even realise that having been in mental health work I was like, ah, how did I not realise that that was so mean to myself? Yeah, now again, it's like this thing that you can catch yourself and I can go Oh, that's the part of my brain that is not very helpful and I do not need to listen to you. And so we can comment I can go into more awareness that we have whatever that piece that you're working on the way the awareness just gets deeper and deeper and deeper so that you can catch yourself in it and like now I'll find myself and like it can take me seconds or minutes to get out of whereas before I could have been looping in same frickin thought process for months.

Libby Robertson  

Yeah, yeah, maybe just that awareness. Yeah, yeah. So bright one of the things I like to talk about is like teaching you to like train your brain to come on your team like so often condition you know, how just how air conditioned how our brain is not on our team right at saying these things that are not helpful to us and so if we can they've come aware of this and you know, really train it just like if you're training at least you're training at the Jimmy like here's how to do squats like you know, here's how to do positively here's how to say positive things. Here's how to, you know, if you're if you're going off track and you're trying to go down that old thought pattern of things that are unhelpful here, you know, when you do the pre work to educate yourself, so that, Oh, hang on, I've got the awareness that my brain is going back into this old way, like you have done the work. But I can see what's going on. And I've got a solution. And I know that when this happens, I do this. So it's like the importance of you know, you talked about all the, all the work that you're doing, that you've now got the tools that in the moment, you're able to shift it and shift something very quickly, you know, says so we're so we're so powerful, we are so powerful. Where Yeah, blows me away.

Keri Norley  

So invite anyone who's listening to like if you're in these places, but feel like it could be that rock bottom place it doesn't have to be like, you know, rock bottom as some people would say and I know that I know having listened to plenty of I will say alcohol and drug addiction stories like rock bottom can be pretty gnarly in those stories. And and so I invite you like maybe like look at where your life is right now and ask yourself like, is this what I desire right now because right now you can choose differently, like right now in this moment, you can realise you can look around your life and you can go, this is not what I want. This is not what I signed up for. And make that choice and be like, Okay, so what are the things that I do want? Right? And so so please hear from Libby because I like how did you start to like so you'd one day at a time but like how did you really start to unmask and I know and I say this because we know each other actually I know I met you originally I don't know that you know this but was through Reagan. So you were I think Reagan shout it out about you at some point. Regan Hillier. So those of you who do not know who we're talking about is one of Libby's mentors, and one of mine, I did quantum healing with her. And she must have shouted out about you at some point in time talking about you at something because something amazing you would have done. And I was like, Whoa, who is this person? And so I say that because you know, both of us have worked with really powerful tools in the quantum world to really start shifting things but we didn't start there. Like, like rock bottom to like, let's go I mean, sometimes you can but like, there's there's some worker, right like Libby already is talking like she's already had spiritual awakenings before she got there, but like, so go ahead sure share some of the story of like these days and how you pulled yourself out.

Libby Robertson  

There's a lot more, a lot more than that. So that's the first way and I want to I want to come back to something else that I remember that included that so that first week when I was in the bedroom, I was at my parents house and just in this in this bedroom, curtains closed for several days, and I remember and this time I was journaling and I was like Hey, where have I you know, where have I gone? You know, where have I gone wrong? Where have I mixed up and I started writing down and this was really really humbling I started writing down all the people that I had heard from my old way of being so this and what I what I how I teach this now is that radical responsibility like you are where you are and when you can take full responsibility for the situation that you're in and really look at Okay, what's not an integrity, what's not an alignment, what have I been doing? or How have I been showing up that that actually, I don't I don't want to be showing up like that anymore. So this for me was one of the first the first things and then what I started doing was remember this one time like right, let me set up a plan so that if I'm tempted so if I'm tempted to go back into my old ways, you know and this for me, it was for me, it's drinking right for me it was drinking. For others it could be something else that I've really worked on is anger, right like having a natural anger response. You know, for others it could be to do with anything else. We've all got addictions, right? You know, unless we do the work, like we've all got something that is our external clutch to fill a void within us to fill a place within us that is lacking love. And so, you know, for me, so for me, it's drinking So, okay, I'm thinking, why, why do I? Why do I drink? Like, why is it so hard for me? It's not hard for everyone else. Why is it so hard for me, let me write down all of the times that I might be tempted to drink all of the times that I am tempted to go back into that into that old way. So I started writing them. I got my journal, it was beautiful yellow journal, where I was like, This is my sobriety journal, and I'd write down breakthroughs. And I'd write down what I'm really proud of myself for and I'd write down what I'm taking responsibility for, like every, like my heart and soul was poured into this journal. And like, what am I tempted at what tempts me, I started writing, right? Okay, I had a good day, and celebrating, I had a hard day, I feel sad, I feel happy. And I started creating this list of all of the times that I might be tempted to drink. And it was pretty much every life experience, every emotion, like whoa, okay, this is interesting, this is good, I need to learn how to feel I'm seeing right now that I actually can't feel emotions, and I can't feel without the desire to drink. So this starts leading me down this path of why it you know, why is that? And then I start looking at suppressed emotions, and then I start looking at Well, okay, why have I not been feeling my feeling my feelings, and then I start to uncover inner child healing, and then I start to uncover, you know, I was working with a clairvoyant at one point to really help me see parts of my consciousness that I couldn't necessarily see. And started learning about how to work with my entire energy field, not just my mind, but working with a subconscious, but also an energetic level. So I can really see cuz I'm like, She's like, let's figure out why you've actually got the addiction in the first place. So then we went through and really found this, you know, a sexual abuse that I hadn't even I, again, toss it under the rug, I don't want to deal with that, you know, when it happened, I don't want to deal with that. I don't want to tell anyone, there's a lot of shame, there's all this guilt, I don't want to even address it, let me sweep it under the rug, and it never happened. Right. And then here we are, you know, decades later, having to having to go into it. So this was this was all within the space of a couple of months, like your first week was really, really immersive, really intense. And then after that, it was like I had that the foundation within that first week within the commitment and the things that are already done to set myself up energetically to hold myself accountable. And this holding ourselves accountable is one of the biggest things like the biggest pieces of strength, resilience that we get to cultivate within ourselves. Because unless we want to do something, it's very hard to do something, whether that be in business and creating wealth, whether that be you know, stepping into your next level of service, or starting a business or stopping to do that particular thing that you've always done, right, we have to hold, it has to come from within. So it has to be a reason strong enough for us to hold ourselves accountable. So my accountability was my commitment to the universe, my commitment to myself, and I just knew that I was born for so much more than the life the other path would have led to. I just I just knew on a soul level that that's not what I signed up for. This is what I signed up for. What's really cool, I'll get to the cool thing. So Dane had decided that he couldn't handle my drinking anyone, which is why he fear it fair enough. But we've had so many fear enough. Cool, yet you you set that boundary, you did say that. I didn't honour that. And I still went ahead. And, you know, you continued to party and continue to drink and got myself into another situation that you had every right to leave in my in that week, where I was just in so much pain and so much, you know, looking at everything so honestly and so, so radically responsibly. I was like, let me let me just try my luck. I see how much I've heard him. I'm going to send them flowers. I'm going to send them flowers. I'm not going to. I'm going to honour his face. I'm not going to message him. But I'm just gonna I'm just gonna send them flowers like, let's say. So apparently this day that I sent him flowers. He had asked the universe for a sign whether he should give me another chance, one final chance or not. So we hadn't spoken at all. Hey, I know right? He gets home from work. And his flowers on his doorstep from me. Yeah, so he sends me a message he sends me takes thank you so much for the flowers. I appreciate it. Hope you're doing well. That was it. Can't remember the conversation. But we organised to have a conversation and a few days time, where we would hop on the phone and just say, look, you know, this is how it is. And so when he heard, not have to actually decide to give up drinking, like I'd said that so many times, when he heard what I had done to hold myself to this new level of account, he said, right, you're giving up drinking, right? I'm going to do it with you. I'm going to do it with you. So he made the decision as well. So I've been very, very blessed the whole time that it's been two of us on the journey. But I had to hold myself to account and get myself to a stage where I was able to show up in the relationship and say, Hey, this is what I'm doing. You can come we can decide to honour your decision that you've made to leave me that is fine. This is the path that I'm choosing for my life. And here's why. And here's how I'm holding myself to account. Here is what I'm doing. I'm working, learning how to feel my emotions, I'm learning in a child healing, I'm learning to heal the root cause of why I had this problem in the first place. And this is what I'm doing. I don't expect anything from you, this is what I'm doing. Right. And that is one of the most powerful things ever is when in relationships, whether it's, you know, we met, we now married, which is really beautiful. Whether it's a marriage, whether it's partnership, whether it's a friendship, we can only ever take responsibility for ourselves, we can not control one other person, we can take responsibility for ourselves. And that is it. And when we do that, and we show up from this place, and we hold ourselves to deeper and deeper and deeper, what I call excellence, and I like deeper excellence, deeper self love, really giving ourselves the permission to, to do the challenging things, to forge our own path to do things that have not been done by anyone around us before and hold ourselves to that level of excellence that we desire for our lives. those around us will, will come if they're meant to be if they're meant to. There is no excuse no external things that we change. We have problems and relationships, we look at ourselves. It's not necessarily the relationship that needs fixing. It's what we get to look up within ourselves. And does that. Does that give an insight into what into what you're asking until we had a begin and beginning to use some tools? And

Keri Norley  

yes, yeah, yes, yes, ultimately, and I love what you said, I think one of the things people can take away whether, again, whether it's, you know, for me, I've been working through my own stuff around my own vices. And it's one of those things where, you know, like, we can call it addictions, devices, whatever the thing that you use to fill yourself when you're not feeling your emotions. And the thing can be like, my biggest one right now is technology, like, and I say this, because most people don't even realise that technology is an addiction, right? But like we've been, and especially this last 18 months, right? We've been forced, and I've already had my life online, but like, even more, I think, right? We've been forced online, social media, all of that stuff. It's an addiction 100%, like if we let it be, and it definitely had become one for me. And so it's like, you know, taking my phone to bed at night. So the first thing for me is like, leave the phone outside my room, because then I won't do it before bed, and I won't do it in the morning, right. And so setting these boundaries, and I think it's really important that we look at it, it doesn't have to be drinking and drugs, to have addictions and to feel avoidance, right? Food technology, people have sex as addiction, all sorts of porn, like they're shopping, shopping, there are so many ways that we can do this. And, and I love what you said, like, just look at why, you know, like, if, if you're here, and any of these things are speaking to you. Look at why, why do you turn to that thing? And what do you want? Like, what could you do instead? And sometimes not do anything like this is what I'm like noticing it's actually like just sit and feel it and be okay with it. And sometimes it takes 30 seconds. Sometimes it takes 10 minutes. Sometimes for great for quantum flow because I had to move my body is it's really intense. Right, but whatever it is, and I think that's the thing, like we don't actually just have to say like sometimes it is like there is a lot of energy moving and I think when you start to actually be in your body like literally is how can you come home to yourself? How come How can you come home into your body? Because your body will speak to 1000 million words that are never needed to be spoken. And then it's even like we don't even need to this is the thing like people will say how do you feel them? Like while there's a sensation in my body? You don't even have to put a word to it right? It's like there's an sensation that's really intense in the pit of my stomach and it doesn't feel good. Okay, well what can you do next? Well, I can be with that pit of my stomach and I can then say well, can I move this energy out of my body? And how can I do that in the best way is it going to be through screaming not at a human being but at the pillow? Right? Like how can we do this without taking it out on the people we love the most? You know? Yeah, like go and express that in a way or is it through writing? Is it through moving is it through banging something on a wall is it through? Whatever the thing you know, I say I say that carefully, like harsh. Don't put your fingers through a wall and punch through walls. Please, for

Libby Robertson  

getting that done that.

Keri Norley  

Like I said, I'm sitting here thinking like one of my favourite things. My husband, I call it anger management. And there's a bowl and it has a weighted like medicine bowl at the end of it. And so one of my favourite things to do and I get really angry or like I'm feeling like, Oh my god, where's my anger management because I can very, very like in a healthful way. And this is I guess, like, how can we find helpful resources for ourselves? And so like, my family knows sometimes like, if I'm feeling that way, like, here we go take that thing hit the wall, very productively not at us. Yeah, there's a ball. It's very productive, useful for a while. Right? And so it's like, how can one other move it out of us, right?

Libby Robertson  

Yeah, exactly, exactly. It's so and it's so like, these conversations are so amazing, because it's like, we're at this time in the collective at the moment where we're like, things, the way that we've been doing things, isn't helpful for where we're going, right. And so feeling our emotions, we, you know, we should effectively be learning that as tablets, you know, as children where it's what we should be doing as children, but we don't, right, we live in a world where we've been so suppressed, or we're not taught how to, you know, manage our emotions. It's like, Hey, don't get angry, don't cry, like don't do that. And so all of a sudden, instead of allowing ourselves to experience all of these, you know, all of these emotions, we suppress them, and we bottle them up. And so oftentimes, and what I noticed a lot of like, and I experienced this myself, and like you're just talking about it now. But one of the things I noticed, even when clients come to work with me on business, and then all of a sudden, we're going deeper into their healing, because you've got it, you know, part of what, how I discovered about self wealth is the alignment of your mind, like your mind, your body, and your soul, wealth, external wealth and manifestations as a byproduct of that. And so in order to create more external results, you've got to go within, but one of the things that happens is if we've gone a lifetime, without experiencing our emotions, and learning how to deal with them, they can all of a sudden, it's like, all of a sudden come up. And we're like, what do I do with this? Like, how do I feel this, I don't know what's wrong with me. There's nothing wrong with you just on a lifetime without feeling these. So let's learn how to feel them. And what you've said is really cool around. Not anyone else, right? It's like when we can hold our energy when I look at this, like shell manically and from an energetic perspective, we hold our energy field and we can process all of our emotions and our energy field even if it's someone else that has said something and we're now triggered, it's not be a fault. So it's not up to us to direct anger at them, we can process our emotion we can be angry, but the what I call energetic responsibility, as well as emotional responsibility is processing everything within ourselves, being angry if you're going to be angry, but not sending the emotional charge or the energetic charge to the person. Like this is a huge amount of again, it's like this huge process that we I believe as the as the next steps that we're going to be looking at as humanity's that we can learn to process our emotions as our own individual experience as emotional and but you know, vibrational beings having this energy in motion moving through us without directing it towards others, or externally, in you know, in the web of life. So, yeah, I love that processing emotions healthily, within our within ourselves. Yeah,

Keri Norley  

I have two other like questions, but I know we have to wrap this up. So I'm gonna, huh, there's a part of me, I'm gonna put I'm gonna throw them both to you. And you can actually decide, are we? Part of me wants to go Okay, so where do you think we are heading in the future, because I know you have a really cool perspective of this. And we live in a similar path on this. And number two is the perfectionist piece that we were talking about when before we got into the show, which is, and maybe we can even combine this the perfectionist piece, which is why why you know, like so many people, and I'm sure you and I both have had this, in this place has been like, Well, I have to be perfect before I get this. Like, if I'm messy, then I can't possibly be successful. Right? And so then we we stop ourselves from actually going out and creating what we want. But really, it just hinders us. And so I'm gonna throw them both to you. And I'm gonna let you go where you want to go?

Libby Robertson  

Yeah, amazing. Okay, I'm going to come to the prediction space first, and then we'll go to the future, where we're going as a collective, I'm assuming like, the future Yeah, amazing. So this is really with the perfectionist piece like we could have a whole episode on this. We have to remember that no matter what we have done in the world, no matter what we have done in our lives, that we are still enough for love, that we are still enough for success, and that we are still enough for our heart's desires. There is nothing extra that we need to do for us to be worthy of that success. And oftentimes, when we look at it from a perfectionist kind of point of view, we want to be perfect before doing this or you know, I will be happy When, like, you know, when I lose five kilos or pounds or whatever, when I, when I do that, when I make this money when I do when I do that, I'll be able to help these people when I've achieved this, like, if you look at everything that you have done in your life up until this moment, and most importantly the person that you are, there is always, always always value that you are adding to the world. Right and when you can see that, and you can see that if you can, you might have an idea of where you're going. But you know that you were more than enough exactly as you are and that you were so valuable in your experiences and just you being human, you just being human, there are going to be people and you know, if you're if it's if you're running a business, there are always going to be clients who want to learn from you because of because of where you are now because of you being you know, and when we can be okay with always being a work in progress, right? Because what happens is if we're constantly chasing or waiting for something external, to feel the worthy or to feel like okay, cool, now I've nailed it, then we're going to be actually tasting the next thing like we're, you know, we're constantly going to be on a path of growth. So when we can strive for progress instead of perfection. This, this is where the magic happens, we show up and we say, I am enough exactly as I am, I always do my best and my best is good enough. My best is good enough. I know better, I'm going to do better. When I know better, I'm going to do better. But I'm a work in progress. There's a FACA Toki, which is called a like a say a Maori proverb. And we're here in New Zealand and hang on, let me just make sure I get it. I don't want to butcher it. They believe it is Matt if I go head to toe Karthika. And it means practice makes progress, which I think is so beautiful, because in English, we say practice makes perfect, which is like this idealistic. chasing something that actually doesn't really exist. In this human life, the perfection that we seek doesn't really exist, it doesn't. So when we can see the perfection and the imperfection and know that we're enough exactly as we are, then we give ourselves permission to move forward.

Keri Norley  

Even if I think about it, as I'm listening to you, it's like, I don't know one person who has created success in their business and will will actually come and say I knew what I was doing. Right? Like it, it doesn't matter what stage of the business you're in. It's like I'm gonna try something out. See if it works. It's like it's messy. Like we don't know where and especially for those of us in for I know for you for me that we attract people around us that are trailblazers, you know, like we're doing new things in the world. That's actually hilariously my alarm saying how are you feeling right now to remind myself? So I'm feeling amazing. So I'm talking to live Yeah, thank you very much. Yeah. Um, so yeah, so like, that's like, number one thing is it's like, it's messy, like creating and trailblazing. And going places in your life that you've never been is messy period, end of story. And it feels uncomfortable sometimes. And we don't know what we're doing. But we're like, listening to divine guidance and going really want me to do what? Okay. Like, even if we're trying to not be messy, it is it's inherently messy, because we're trailblazing into new ways. And so, you being messy is actually perfect.

Libby Robertson  

Yeah, exactly. And it's like, it's kind of, you know, the the name of the book, like how to unmiss your life is kind of it's like, number one light as your life actually amiss. You know, it's Yeah. It's like this paradox, you know, that we're trying to seek, seek something, but there's always you know, we're going for a bushwalk, let's say, and there's the path that most people take, and we're like, let me just try this one is, you know, overgrown trees, and there's this beautiful, you know, natural forest. And we're like, I want to go that way. We're going to, you know, bushwhack our way through the forest. We're going to get messy. You know, we're going to get messy. But when we look back, and we see what we've created, is magic. Absolute magic. Absolute magic. Yeah. And then the second question. So where do I believe that we're going, we could go again, we could do a whole episode on this. What I see when I look at where we are going as a collective, and where we're going as humanity. I, I actually see, and I've seen this since I was a little girl. It's really interesting. I see what I call heaven on earth, right? It's like we are so loving towards one another. You know, we all know how that how to handle our emotions and our energy we're powerful. manifester is like we are living in a in a world of pure abundance. We know how to access quantum technologies to you know, co create with the universe and more and more and more powerful. Wise than ever before. I believe that we understand that every resource is renewable, that we will be really tapped into divine abundance in all areas and that this will be a place of creation. So shifting really from a place of survival and we will be, I feel like we will be a species of creation, like really thriving of love. playfulness, like really living in this, you know, this beautiful, this beautiful state and that's what it is. It's a state as I believe that we will all access that state.

Keri Norley  

So interesting. So I have my book, the new wealth, magnetise abundance, hold your wealth and leave a legacy. And it's funny because my facebook group is called the new wealth. And that tagline is heaven on earth. And it's like, because it truly is like, to me it's like the whole journey is how do we get to a place where we can live in infinite abundance, and we can live in infinite bliss, and we can live in infinite peace and enjoy and exactly what you're talking about. And that to me is heaven on earth. Like, we can have that right now. And ultimately, I think and it's beautiful that you've written this book, and I know I have one coming, I feel it, there's one coming it'll be similar in the journey to you. Because it's like the thing around it is that we have to break free of the suffering. Like that's the thing that stops us that we are conditioned to believe as humanity that we have to suffer. And that's what creates and that between that and the disconnection from source right from us to source is is the thing that creates the disharmony that has meant that we have war and scarcity and all of the things that we have is because we've been conditioned to believe it has to be that way but like I keep thinking I have this question it's like well if there's this this is i know i know we have to wrap this up but like if there is other beings other planets that are living in this way already right which you and I will both agree with do definitely exist that can help us with this there are you know other beings that are coming into our existence on earth that are helping us to elevate into these new places and so I'm like, well if that happens there then why can't it happen here? And what would it actually look like on this planet for it to happen here? And I know like I think goodness that there's other people like you in this world doing this because I know we are the minority who believe this can actually happen and I tell people this all the time and they're like oh Carrie You're so crazy. Yeah, you're such a dreamer. Like what are you thinking? And I'm like ah, you'll see I have the vision the vision we're linking arms right

Libby Robertson  

I love this so much I've been speaking so much and asking very similar things as well of like there's so much going on at the moment and so many people are focused on different rabbit holes or different things and different pieces of like what you know what's my mission during this whole awakening process you know is it to be speaking about these things ought to be speaking about these things and i'm not i'm not gonna go into I'm sure we can all understand what we're speaking about but I truly believe that you know, many of us is something I feel like some of us are feeling like we have to get caught in this in this thing over here or when an actual fact Yeah, when an actual fact Yeah, but in actual fact that our purpose for many of us is to hold the vision and to create them to live that with it. There will be others waking people up, people will be waking up but for many of us who feel that cool it's it's about actually holding the vision and getting focused on that and birthing that thing getting caught up in any of the dynamics that are playing out you know, yeah, at the moment it's

Keri Norley  

time it's it's not this or that side it's it's above it's like it's not an either or it's actually neither. And it's actually let's create a whole new vision and a whole new reality and it doesn't exist and what we currently have and so you actually have to rise above it and choose a whole new way. And that means you have to disconnect from what you think is real right here and right now. Sounds like the most perfect way to Mic drop Alright, so just leave us with whatever last words of wisdom you want to leave us with and how can people reach out to you

Libby Robertson  

Just remember that every every single human being that walks this planet has an amazing purpose and if you're here and if you're tuned into this conversation even more so like the more that you hold your vision, or from your heart and and trust the guidance that you're receiving from within and show up from this place. You will see the reason as to why you've been given the vision that you have even if it seems very abnormal to everyone else around you. So trust that remember that and you're amazing and I love you and thank you for being here. And yeah, you can find me on Instagram we can connect on Instagram, which is Libby light or at Libby light leader or on Libby robertson.com. Those will be the easiest places on Facebook as well.

Keri Norley  

Perfect and thank you so so so so very much and actually, where are they going to get your book? It's going to be on Amazon, I imagine. Yeah,

Libby Robertson  

just yet anywhere on Amazon. For now we're looking at getting it into some stores. But yeah, on Amazon to begin with.

Keri Norley  

So how to unmiss your life by Libby Robertson on Amazon, go check it out, get your copy. And otherwise, thank you so so so very much Libby for being here with us today. It has been an absolute honour to listen to your story to speak with you. Thank you. Thank

Libby Robertson  

Thank you. Thank you so much for having me. And thank you to everyone listening.